Love marriage or Arranged marriage !!!

The topic seems to be old, quite often discussed among people but here i want to write what i feel ...
Yep first of all do we need to be married ! Why the hell we want to spoil our good bachelor life during which we will have great freedom of coming late to home(most of us), Why the need to spend long hours in shopping malls to buy a single saree! Why to have unnecesssary arguements with spouse! People who are thinking in the above way definitely dislike marriages. But do all these things definitely happen after marriage. May be your spouse is also interseted in going second show movies.. So you found a new friend who can accompany you to movies. May be your spouse is also not interested in shopping! May be your spouse is very cooperative and can understand you well and clear your problems rather than starting unnecessary arguements! And may be you will be very happy with her after marriage!

Hmmm... But every statement started with "May be". So all these things to really happen do we need to opt for love or arranged marriage? Is there any certainity that Arranged or Love marriage will assure you a happy life?

When you know your spouse in before and if you already know her likes and dislikes, definitely going to help for a peaceful and happy life. But is it necessary to know your "would-be" in before? And if not is that going to ruin your life. I dont think so. Most of our parents are married in that way and even then they all are leading a happy life. Of course that was made possible with their due respect to the marriage. We can love and understand each other even after marriage. To understand someone what you need is just some patience and in somecases you need a bit more. But ultimately you can understand anyone.

Why are we making a relationship with someone by taking a lot of pain in understanding? Instead we can know that person in before and then we can decide on marriage? Definitely if you know the person in before you already should have put some effort in knowing his/her tastes.!And that definitely will help in taking a decision to marry someone or not. But can anyone guarantee me that knowing someone in before marriage, will lead to a happy life. There will be some differences obviously. God may have made 7 persons alike but no two persons in this world behave the same way. So anyways you need to comprimise at times. So why to make your parents unhappy by going against their opinion!!!

A person typically lives twenty to twenty five years in every way dependent on parents. I feel that is the half of the life. The next half people gradually people learn to be independent. Of course there is something to be learnt from elders in every part of life. And second half you need a partner who can share your feelings, emotions, sorrows, and happiness.

Confused!!! Why I am I supporting two sides?? Friends here are my concluding lines ...

To love and marry is really good but make your parents understand that she is the right person for you. Most of the people say they do not understand it!!! Guys if you really think you gave your 100 percent and still they persist to not marry someone then you can take the decision. But 100 percent effort is important. And for me those who are caring for you all these years will definitely understand if you put it in the right way.

Love or arranged marriages? I go for love and arranged marriages.

Most people say that now-a-days people are more inclined to western culture. And some say the older days were better. I feel the present days are better where you need to give a reason to your parents for marrying someone.So there is the freedom to choose but there is responsibilty with it. And also there is "the fear of the society". What these people think? etc etc...So people should find the right person to marry and they should prove that she is the correct choice.